How do I prepare for the conversation?

This conversation might need to occur multiple times. You may want to start introducing concepts well before the older driver is at a point of crisis. Then, they can be part of the discussion, planning, and implementation. Some tips include:

  • Be supportive.
  • Approach the conversation with kindness and compassion.
  • Gather information and plan your conversation.
  • Ask the older driver about how they felt when their parents or another loved one drove past the point of safety (or when they gave up the keys).
  • Remind your older loved one that you are concerned about their health and safety and that of those around them.
  • Remind your older loved one that giving up driving isn’t the same as giving up their independence, freedom, hobbies, etc.
  • Include alternatives to driving (public transport, ridesharing companies, friends driving, other services in your community, etc.) in your conversation.

There are several resources to help plan for and have a conversation. Reviewing these will give options and ideas to help you have conversations that build on each other. Additionally, these conversations can help the individual you care for start transportation planning and/or changing their driving habits.